I wish I could write a proper obit for John Updike, but even Nicholson Baker probably can't. In Baker's book "U and Me," he realizes he'll never write as well as Updike. Frankly, that's a bit like realizing that one could never create worlds as effectively as God.
I read Updike because my parents suggested him. I remember first running into him when I couldn't get a question right in Battle of the Brains practice -- first sentences of novels. It's about basketball, which figures in the last scene of the fourth book of the series.
I read the book, eventually. I read lots of them, and felt a personal connection to Updike that he affirmed with his kindness at a book signing in 1987 or 1988, when I asked he sign a number of books I had of his -- as well as my professor's copies. (My professor saw I was forward of him in the line and asked me to convey his books to the great man, which I did cheerfully, and as a result, I passed the course possibly without deserving it. Shakespeare. 'Nuff said.)
I loved Updike's work. Every time there was a new one, it was a date. I imagined his descriptions of filth, papercut pornographic details dealt out in tragic solitaire. I imagined that this is what it is like. I wanted to grow up to battle the misery and avoid it. Some of it, I did. Some, I didn't.
Always, at every turn, if I let myself inhale all the way, the dust of his prose would whirl down my lungs.
At the book signing I went to -- not the one in this nice Flickr picture from a year ago -- Updike listened to me chatter briefly while he wrote his name in old paperbacks and new copies of his then-current work. He asked if I wrote -- I had probably said something in Tagalog at that moment as my brain cells fused into a glassy knot of incomprehension that led him to suspect I worshiped him -- and I said I hoped to. I admitted I hadn't found my voice. (Still haven't.)
He told me to keep writing. He told me -- this man who had found his voice when he was practically in short pants, a prodigy who became a virtuoso -- I would find it.
I remember I had started to walk away when he said it. He turned his head and shoulders to say it while I walked, to keep me in view, to give me the gift of his gaze. I don't know...maybe it seems ridiculous, now, that the touch of his look meant so much to me, but it still does, after all these years. (About 20, since you're asking.)
I believe he was the greatest writer of his generation. His books risked and risked and risked, and I loved them for that.